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Sexuality 101

Journal Entry: Fri Jan 4, 2013, 10:46 PM



Okay, so recently I've been seeing a lot of people calling yiptrip out for the sexuality on her profile changing on occasion. This is not some defensive journal, and I'm not white-knighting Samm. I can understand disliking her, because I've been there before, trust me. Hell, I still have a problem with the way that she behaves at times, and the things that she says in anger. However, that is no excuse to pick at every little thing that she does, especially if you don't even know what you're talking about.

Sexuality is not a concrete, set-in-stone character trait. It's fluid, because it's based upon emotions, and everybody knows that over times feeling change and vary. 90% of you, even those that consider themselves homosexual, identified as "straight" at one point or another. Then, you gradually began to discover more and more definitions that fit you better than the one you were using to define yourself, and that was okay! Nobody had any problem at all with that.

You are not limited to one sexuality. There is no guidebook labelled "how to be -insert sexuality here-". There aren't any rules to follow, and sometimes one simple word is not enough to describe the complexity that is human attraction. If Samm identifies as a demisexual lesbian, that's a-okay with me, and if you think it's not, then you simply don't understand the logistics behind sexual preference. Simple as that.

"Demisexual lesbian" is basically just another term for "female-leaning demisexual". This means that you are attracted to females (i.e. lesbian), but that you experience a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person (i.e. demisexual). In this case, it is perfectly fine to use the two terms, because they do not contradict each other. Instead, they work together to describe one's sexuality on a deeper level.

This goes for everyone. If there's a young child on the internet, claiming to be bisexual, or a lesbian, or even asexual, then there is nothing wrong with that. Chances are, they recently discovered the meaning behind the word, and decided that they thought that fit them best! You still have your impressionable kids who follow the crowd like sheep, but honestly, that's fine too. The point is that it will change over time, and judging somebody based on whether or not they like dick is just ridiculous. Everybody deserves a chance to discover themselves.

I firmly believe that you are not born with a pre-determined sexuality. Instead, we are born with the mental capabilities to address our stages of arousal and to determine based off of that who we are attracted to. No, you do not have to draw straws in order to pick your sexuality. No, you do not have to narrow it down to one term. No, you do not have to break down if you're a "lesbian" and you are attracted to a man. Just settle on what you feel.

TL;DR

Lower your standards, not everybody has to get their sexuality right on the first try. Things change.

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:iconchokes-on-dorito:
chokes-on-dorito Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
does that mean i have a organ that holds my gay juice
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes.
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chokes-on-dorito Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2013
omg
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Pepsq Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
jeese so many people think its up to them to choose what she should be, seriously its annoying its like watching a soap opera on her page.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
HinaUchi is a soap opera.
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Pepsq Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2013
heehee
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Corrosives Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Can't thank you enough for this, man. I mean, I can't really relate to it 100% of it since I (and always have) identify as hetero, but I know others who feel differently, this helps me understand them and myself. (and it also cleared up what Demisexual ment too, omg)
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm glad!
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CIaw Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
holy shit
will you marry me
like
now //////shot

fkjghdfkjg i dont know how to express how much i agree with this
cries manly//
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Can't marry you without a ring, man.
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CIaw Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hdjfdh goodness you're stubborn
Buys a five dollar ring hERE
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
THANK.
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TaquitoTerrier Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
Oh, thank you.
I tried explaining this to someone, but they didn't really get it.
It's kinda.. I mean, we're all growing up, here, right?
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes, exactly.
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TaquitoTerrier Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
Anyway, thanks for putting this in words that everyone can understand, Cas.
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brieghtEyes Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think people should just leave people the flick alone. I don't care what sexuality Hina is, I love her art so why does it even matter.
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PeachesOfWar Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Digital Artist
Hell yes!

I mean I consider myself straight but that's only because I've never fallen for another girl before~
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think in this world, everybody is presumed straight until they meet somebody of the same sex that they wanna bang.
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TaquitoTerrier Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013
^
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PeachesOfWar Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Digital Artist
frick yeah
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CORROSlVE Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree completely.
Not only based on my sexual orientation, but because everyone shits on people who don't post it on their profile now. LOL
/life.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I don't post it on my profile, because how is it relevant to you this is an art site holy shit.
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CORROSlVE Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
sdfkhlhg I know fff
I used to post it until I became uncomfortable showing people
Because I'm so confusing LOL
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My sexuality is a clusterfuck, so I know how you feel.
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CORROSlVE Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my god my physics teacher used that word in class the other day
I was like "good god mr. macon who are you anymore'
BUT ANYWAY yeah. When I post it on here I feel like one of the little scene girls
"13 n' bisexual and LOVIN IT [;"
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
He's PERFECT, obviously.

Ughhh. If I posted my sexuality on here people would ASK ME WHAT IT MEANS...
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CORROSlVE Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I remember back like forever ago I was super confused and found out what demisexual was before EVERYONE
And was like 'oh okay that makes sense, maybe I'm that' BUT NOPE
'demisexual/lesbian/straight/asexual faggot i like men n' women'
Is all I see anymore :I
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I identify as grey-a sapiosexual demiromantic.

Oops. Go google it fricker.
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SquishyCorgi Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Very well written, Casper. I agree with this 100%.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you!
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SquishyCorgi Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Not a problem! (:
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CanineCanvas Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
:clap:
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:bow:
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VulpesCorvus Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013   Digital Artist
Wow, this is very well-written, and I completely agree with your point.
I'm just wondering, do you take any writing classes?
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you kindly!

No, I don't, but I have been writing since I was quite young so it's no big surprise that my sentence structure is advanced. uwu
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VoidIing Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
feelings do not exist.
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:iconmriao:
Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You don't exist.
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:iconvoidiing:
VoidIing Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
SEXUALITIES ARE SERIOUS BUSINESS, YOU CRAPFACE.
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:iconmriao:
Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
THEY TOTALLY ARE!!!11
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VoidIing Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
YEAH.

GLAD 2 C U AGREE.
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Dreaamach Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
so when are you running for president again
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
2016, man. Be there.
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Vulpse Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Writer
Oh my god since when have people become such sexuality police, nobody knows but the person, you can't decide for them or tell them that they are wrong.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm aware. It's based upon how the person in question feels. Not how you feel.
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Vulpse Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Student Writer
Mhm, I wasn't addressing you in particular, I was talking more about the general faction of people who still seem to think this. I don't understand why it is such a difficult and bizarre concept to them.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
So was I. When I say "you", I mean the universal "you".
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canobefnur Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I completely agree with this.
Your sexuality isn't set in stone at all.
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Unfortunately, it seems that some people believe otherwise.
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crispyspringrolls Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013
This. :thumbsup:
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Mriao Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Indeed.
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